We’ve all been hearing those positivity-filled speeches these days haven’t we? We can’t escape them. Don’t get me wrong, they are wonderful and very helpful and empowering but sometimes they aren’t reply ‘applicable’ to our everyday life. On that note, I decided to bring you tips that you can actually use in your life.
Surround yourself with positive people
”Tell me who you hang out with and I’ll tell you who you are.” I don’t know if this is a thing in English but this is a very popular quote here in Portugal. This can’t be truer. In this case, if you surround yourself with positive people, you are pretty much bound to be a positive person. And positive thoughts attract positive things, so this is only doing you good. You don’t need negativity in your life. It’s only bringing you down and affecting you.
Listen to some feel-good music
Listen to songs that have uplifting lyrics and will make you feel good. No more sad songs (see the Little Mix reference?)! I’ve actually made a whole post about a Girl Power Playlist that is all about empowering and inspiring woman. You can read it here.
Let go of things that bring you down
Why feel sad? It’s not worth it. If something or someone is letting you down just let it go. Keep what makes you happy close and just get rid of the bad things.
Clear your head- do some yoga, meditate…
I’ve been doing yoga three times a week for the past two months and it’s been great for my mental health. It gives me time to rest my mind and reflect at the same time. Your head needs rest too and sometimes sleep isn’t enough.
Reward yourself/ celebrate small victories
This is so important! Celebrate every little goal you achieve. This will motivate you to go forward and will make you a happier person overall.
Don’t bottle up your feelings
It’s okay to cry. Whoever says it wasn’t is clearly an idiot. If something is bothering you,
Don’t dwell on the past
That’s what it is: the past. You can’t change it. It happened, you just need to move on. It can be hard, I totally get that but truth is, what good does it do to your health to keep replaying something that happened a long time ago?
You need to focus on the present and what you’re doing now. Try your best not to think about the past. What happened before happened for a reason, and that reason was not for you to keep thinking about it.
Know that it’s okay not to have everything in control
I struggled with this for a long time. I’ve always been that kind of person that needs to know how everything is being done and has to have some sort of hand on things. This is not good for yourself. Mentally and physically. I’ve experienced it myself.
I’m a bit OCD (as I think I mentioned before on some random post) so imagine what happened when I came home one Saturday night from a shopping day only to see that my mum cleaned my room and misplaced all things. Yeah, I had a panic attack. The ‘we’re taking you to the hospital’ kind of panic attack. I don’t think I’ve ever been more scared in my life. I couldn’t feel my legs nor my arms, I couldn’t stop crying, couldn’t breathe properly… yeah. And all because my mum decided to be helpful and clean my room while I enjoyed a day out. It sounds stupid but it’s just how my mind works. or worked.
Ever since then I’ve come to the conclusion that I can’t control everything and can’t do everything and I need t trust other people to do it. It was really hard at the beginning but now I can say that I’m comfortable with handling tasks to other people instead of doing everything myself. This not only took a huge weight off of my shoulders but also put my mind a lot more at ease and my relationships with other people are a lot better now.
Be gentle with yourself
This is kind of connected with the previous tip. As I said before you can’t control everything so might as well accept that.
If you’re trying to reach a certain goal, don’t work yourself too hard. If you don’t reach your goal quickly, you’ll reach it in an extended period of time. What matters is that you’ll reach it.
It’s okay to say no
I think this is the root of a lot of people’s problems. We don’t want to be unpolite of rude so we end up saying yes to what another person asks us, even if we know it won’t be good for us. The urge to please others makes us neglect ourselves.
What I learned for the past few years if that if you don’t want to do something because you don’t feel like it would benefit you, just say no. If people get mad at you over it, I’m sorry but they are just dickheads.